Go shawty, it’s my birthday! I am officially TWENTY TWO years old! Someone get me a walker, my back started to ache just typing that. It may be my birthday, but I would love to gift you all with some of the wisdom that I’ve picked over the years. So without further ado, here are 22 Things I’ve Learned In Twenty Two Years!
It is completely normal to not have your entire life figured out at 22 years old. Don’t give into the pressure to know everything right now. Some of life’s greatest blessings will come in the form of the unexpected. It’s okay to make plans, but be flexible when new things come your way.
In spite of the naysayers, realists, and concerned but well-meaning family members, my dreams became my reality. I’ve learned that God doesn’t give you dreams you can’t handle. If you’re bold enough to imagine it, then you’re capable of making it happen.
Some seasons of life will find you separated from the people you thought would be constants. Outgrowing people is an inevitable part of life. The worst thing you could do is allow a toxic relationship to choke your growth and keep you from flourishing. It’s okay to prune the relationships that don’t contribute to your growth.
Don’t let the disappointment of unmet expectations hinder your progress. Not all detours are to your detriment. Learn to see the silver linings in tough situations and you’ll find that blessings can be hidden in the unexpected.
There are DEFINITELY situations where “no” means “no.” In terms of life experiences though, a “no” right now does not always mean a “no” forever. Sometimes we can mishandle a blessing because we weren’t mature enough for it. Don’t give up on your dream! Keep trying. What is for you will not miss you.
Growing up, I thought being naturally gifted meant that I didn’t have to work as hard as others. Wrong. People with half your ability will succeed because they worked harder and smarter than you. Don’t rest on the laurels of beauty, brains, or natural ability because opportunity will not always be handed to you.
There are too many humans on this rock for you to worry about being “likeable.” There will always be someone who doesn’t like you or something you stand for. So don’t allow the feelings of others to be your moral barometer. Instead, operate from a place of self love. Do YOU like yourself? Do your actions and words reflect the person that you are called to be?
Let it be known that I am not endorsing reckless behavior. However, you can’t make strides unless you extend yourself. Of course it will be scary, and at times a bit uncomfy, but things won’t stay that way forever. Growth and comfortability are polar opposites after all. Don’t miss out on your calling because of a fear of trying something new.
Cliche but true. Getting into trouble is not hard, especially when the people you surround yourself with are prone to finding it. All it takes is one negative affiliation for your reputation to take a nosedive. So be mindful of who you associate yourself with.
We are the most uncomfortable when trying to be like others. If your purpose is to shine in dark places, then don’t deprive the world of your light. Don’t lessen who you are to make others more comfortable. Be yourself and shine!
Words hold weight. Your words have the ability to build up and viciously tear down in the same breath. Use that power to bring forth life and love, not spew discord and hate.
There is always an opportunity to learn. Don’t restrict your own growth by being a know it all. He who seeks knowledge begins with humbleness.
There aren’t many people who will return unfair treatment with love or sacrifice their comfortability for your wellbeing. There aren’t many people who will give their last to see you happy. So cherish and celebrate the woman who does. Thank you Mummy!
When you inevitably fall short of perfection, don’t be so hard on yourself. You are defined not by the mistake, but how you recover from it. Show yourself some grace!
Avoiding confrontation for the sake of keeping the peace can sometimes has the opposite effect. Instead of running from confrontation, try learning how to have more effective conversations. Confrontation does not have to involve aggression.
On the other side of consistency is success. You’ll never know what could have been if you give up every time the going gets tough. Set goals and continue to work toward them.
Beauty can not be defined by a publication, beauty brand, fashion house, or any other entity. What makes you unique is something to celebrate, not alter so as to better fit a universal “standard of beauty.” We are all unique and beautiful in many ways.
We were not made with perfection in mind. Therefore nothing we create, do, or say will ever be perfect. Chasing perfection will lead to dissatisfaction at every turn. Cultivate your crafts and celebrate your abilities.
Your 20’s are the best time to discover who you are! Learn to be comfortable in your own presence. Take yourself out on solo dates. Normalize doing things by yourself. No one is looking at you. Trust me.
The pressure to marry and procreate by 25 is unrealistic and completely unnecessary. You will meet your husband at the perfect time, and not a minute sooner. Until then, shake loose the shackle of expectation and live your life!
A college degree is not a prerequisite to success. Not everyone is fortunate enough to afford higher education at 18 years old. Go when the time and your finances are right. You are not behind!
You are allowed to make decisions without the commentary and approval of others. Sometimes it is nice to run your ideas by your circle, but that is an option not a requirement.
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As a long time fan of Rent The Runway, I decided to rent my birthday dress this year. The process is always wonderful and I’ll be writing a review of my experience very soon!
Hey I’m Tiffani! My titles include fashion enthusiast, pup lover, and daughter of the Most High. But feel free to just call me Tiff! My blog was created to encourage women who want to conquer this thing we call life with style, personality, grace, and confidence.